Why you are in the friend zone
Let’s talk dating. And to be exact: the much hated ‘friend-zone’.
Let’s face it, there’s nothing worse than to be in the friend zone with someone. You like her, but she just wants to be friends. She ‘doesn’t see you like that’… don’t you hate that?
So you stay friends, because in that way you at least can be around her. And maybe… MAYBE one day, just like in the movies… she’ll discover how great you really are and then she’ll come to her senses.
But until that moment, she keeps sharing her adventures with other men with you, telling how bad they treat her, and how happy she is she can talk to you.
And you KNOW that you wouldn’t treat her like that, because she is awesome.
I’ve been there.
Here’s your wake up call.
- Life isn’t like a movie,
- She’s not going to fall in love with you,
- She didn’t put you in the friend zone → you did.
- You are actually an asshole being selfish and dishonest.
Let’s start with that last one.
What do you look for in this friendship? Companionship? A buddy to hang out with and have fun? Because that is what friends do.
If that’s the case, you’re not in a friend-zone, you are just friends. Just like with your male friends.
Do you hope that your male friends end up sleeping with you? Probably not. Do you hope your male friends fall in love with you, have sex with you and want to marry you? Probably not. So how honest are you with this friendship? What would she do, if she would find out this IS your intention of the friendship? She’d probably call you an asshole and she’d be right. You’re not her friend, your trying to manipulate the situation into your own benefit. And that’s, let’s call it ‘not very nice’.
So how is she putting you in the friend zone, when it’s actually you that aren’t really her friend for the right reasons? You do that my friend. It’s you. The moment you decide you want to be friends with her, be friends for the right reason. If not, be clear about your intentions. And either pursuit the seduction process, or move on. Don’t waste time and energy on only hope and don’t waste her time being not really her friend.
So. How to get out of the friend zone?
It’s all about you.
She’s not going to see you differently if you don’t act differently. If she ‘doesn’t see you in that way’ it is because you show yourself in a way that she doesn’t see you as boyfriend material. And that’s okay. If your authentic and don’t want to change (never change into someone you’re not), than move on. Accept her opinion and chose for friendship or not. Either way, move on.
If you do want to change, become more attractive, understand better how you can really show your true authentic you,
Not sure how to do that?
I’m here for you. Send me a DM and let’s talk.
It’s what I do.
I help men to discover their true power and authenticity, so you can find the woman that is your fit.
That does see you in the way you see her.
Let’s do this.
About the Author
Maurice is the founder of Master Your Personality and originator of the concept of "The 5 Sources of Happiness". He coaches and trains people on how to take control in their happiness, find the love of your life and stage performance like public speaking and acting.